Why I stopped fighting the system – and started building something better

For months after my dad’s death, I tried to work with the system.

I wrote emails. Requested meetings. Sat across from executives. Spoke to lawyers. Offered tech solutions. I even asked for funding to start a not-for-profit in my dad’s name — something that would directly support nurses, the people who are carrying the weight of this system on their backs.

I wasn’t trying to tear anything down. I was trying to build alongside them.

I thought, if I show them the problems — and offer real, practical ways to fix them — surely they’ll want to act.

But they didn’t.

And after getting ghosted, dismissed, and sent in legal circles that protect institutions more than people, something shifted in me.

I realised I could spend the next decade fighting a system designed not to change…

Or I could start building something else.

Something outside of the red tape.

Something that doesn’t wait for permission.

Something that puts people — not policies — at the centre.

Sometimes the only way forward is to build your own path.

That’s when the idea for my ecosystem really took shape.

A new way to support nurses.

A new way to honour the elderly and vulnerable.

A new way to live and care that actually reflects the values we say we believe in.

I’m not interested in putting a band-aid on a broken structure.

I’m interested in creating a new foundation entirely — one that’s ethical, sustainable, and human.

The system failed my dad.

But maybe… just maybe… it can inspire something better for someone else.

B x

Just a note: Everything I’ve shared here is based on my personal experience and views. I’m not naming names or pointing fingers — just being honest about what I saw and felt. It’s not about blame. It’s about trying to do better. This is shared in the hope of encouraging conversation, not conflict.